This is Casey…
Each Christmas I give each of my kids an Experience Present. So far the Experience Present has been the same each year, and it is the same experience for both of them. I write a card to each of them telling them how much I love them and that they will get to enjoy one day skiing with just me.
We ski every weekend throughout the winter, (not because I am a real outdoorsy kind of gal, but strictly for my own personal sanity. Our winters are LONG) so this may not sound very exciting. However, the kids take ski lessons for 6-8 weeks, while I ski by myself, and then when the multi-week lessons are over, we ski together. It is always the three of us.
This one ski day with just me and one of my kids allows us to spend the drive to the mountain and back together, ski lift rides chatting, a lunch date, and they get to choose all of the slopes we go down for the day. We also take a trip to the Vista House on the top of the mountain where they get the treat of hot chocolate while I enjoy an icy cold adult beverage.
My kids are also twins. They are rarely apart from each other and do not get my individual attention very often. I am sure this is similar for parents of children in general. But (yes, I am pulling the But Card), twins reach most milestones at the same time so rarely get singled out for accomplishments. EX-They learn to ride a bike at the same time. They are in the same grade at school so the 3rd grade music program isn’t just for one of them to perform. They typically get the same developmentally appropriate gift for Christmas and birthdays (bikes, scooters, roller blades), and they will share their high school graduation with their sibling.
So I try to make our ski day special for just them.
I like to think that both of my kids will remember our “Ski Dates” with great fondness when they are older. Telling their own children about the times we spent on the mountain.
But for now, I just tell myself that I am a kick-ass mom.